It seems like there have been a lot of conversations about politics lately. So, I want to talk a little bit about two other highly-charged topics: sex and money.
I recently had the good fortune of attending a presentation by the magnificent Chellie Campbell, a specialist in financial stress reduction and an author of several books. I cannot say enough good things about Chellie, so I’ll just say you should go here and check her out. In Chellie’s humor-filled presentation, she offered permission, insight, and suggestions for prosperity consciousness and money self-care.
It was interesting to see how many of the points Chellie made about money self-care apply to sex self-care, too. Here are a few of my takeaways.
It’s good for us to challenge our beliefs about sex and money.
Most of the time, our beliefs about sex and money come from our friends, the media, or family. I probably don’t have to explain, then, why it’s good to challenge our beliefs about sex and money. It’s good to ask what is true and what is a myth? What is aligned with our values, or not? When we carefully deconstruct our beliefs, we can leave behind what does not work and keep with us what does work. We can learn new things, and we can adopt new beliefs. When we change our beliefs about sex and money, we change our experience with sex and money.
When it comes to sex and money, performance is cheap, and authenticity is rich.
Nobody is perfect. And that’s okay because perfection is not the goal. One goal is to show up authentically. Another goal is pleasure. Instead of focusing on a perfect performance, what if we focus on the pleasure, the richness, of the experience - the giving and the receiving? It’s okay to drop the performance and show up as ourselves with unique desires, preferences, and boundaries around sex and money.
Always have fun with money and sex.
If it’s not fun, then you aren’t doing it right. Of course, no one can decide what’s “right” for everybody, but you get my point. Choose to have fun always. When it comes to money and sex, things don’t always go like they do in our fantasies. In reality, things get dry, burnout happens, and energy waxes and wanes. Find a way to have fun anyway. After all, they say humor is the lubricant of life.
Positive expectation plus aligned action leads you to your sex and money goals.
Humor me for a moment. Imagine two people. One person frets over what may go wrong, so they never take action. And they remain stuck. The other person holds a positive expectation that if they take action, things will go well. So, they take action and move forward. Which one of these people seems sexier, richer, and more attractive? Exactly. Positive expectation is a supportive approach, for example, to a conversation, an event, or a partnership – whether sex or money is on the agenda. Action infused with positive expectation can help us get unstuck and closer to our dreams.
That’s it for now, y’all. I wish for everyone an abundance of money and fantastic sex.
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